Monday, 11 October 2010

Its a love thing part 2

So I watched this video on you tube recently and basically I'd like to share with you what I heard and hopefully it will help you cos you know im all about the nice.
Scientology is awesome
OK kidding
It was called the language of love. There are 5 types of the way that people give and receive love and (according to the vid) they run like this
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Receiving gifts
Acts of service
Physical touch.
What does this mean? Well essentially everyone falls into one of these categories as to how they like to receive love. The kind of stuff that makes you feel better over all others. So perhaps you much prefer spending quality time with your partner to receiving a gift, A hug is better than any number of compliments or if you see them cut the grass or taking out the trash you know they love you.
Conversely how people give love falls into one of these categories too but not always the same one as the way they receive love. So you may take compliments really well but have trouble doling them out to you significant other so instead you give them a foot rub.

Now as for myself I'd have to say I'm a quality time kinda guy. I cant take compliments and I don't hold much value to money or things that cost allot of money. Spend some time with me and it makes me feel allll better.
As for giving I'm an acts of service. When i sense a friend needs some feel goods I do something for them, especially if they don't ask for it. That is how i show love ( a word btw that stands in for friendship  as well etc).

So what are you?
Does showing love for you mean hugs and kisses or just holding hands? Does you boy/girl friend  telling you look beautiful today just do it for you? If I could ask for a favour? Think about your special someone, or just a friend and think about what makes them tick and maby it'll help you get on better and make you feel better in the process. Or you could just think about yourself and think what you really like and tell the other person, that'd work too.
Anyway, hope this helped
Im away to take the bin out :D

2 comments:

  1. love isn't about material possessions, its about feeling appreciated and special, quality time and hearing that you mean something to them, that's what makes it feel true.

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  2. agreed, some people just prefer to say all that with diamonds :)there is something about saying something and realising the other person is really listening though that gives me goosebumps heh

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